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My research goal is to improve organizational health. Although
there are hundreds of ways to accomplish this goal, my approach is to improve
organizational health by examining sources of worker withdrawal, sources of
professional workers’ (e.g. doctors, lawyers, and professors) motivation,
sources and outcomes of virtuous leadership, and workplace racial and gender biases.
Improving Organizational Health by Reducing Worker Withdrawal
As I began my academic career, I was
interested in understanding why worker job dissatisfaction is at an all-time
high, and continues to increase. My
coauthors and I examined one source of worker job dissatisfaction and withdrawal
– stagnant worker wages. Specifically, we examined the underlying mechanisms
leading managers to favor resource distributions to stockholders over workers
(Reynolds, Schultz & Hekman, 2006). Across two experiments, we found
that managers tended to distribute a greater proportion of corporate resources
to the stakeholder whose claims on corporate resources were viewed by managers
to be most urgent. In this regard, we found that when stockholders were
the “squeaky wheel,” they were rewarded with a greater share of corporate
profits. However, we also found that managers desired to balance the
interests of stockholders and workers, and thus felt constrained by having to
choose between the two groups. This set of studies indicates the need for
workers to be vocal if they want a greater share of organizational profits.
- Because a key outcome of worker
dissatisfaction and withdrawal is turnover (i.e. employees quitting their
jobs), and turnover is viewed to be a major problem by managers, I next turned
my attention to understanding factors that motivate workers to quit their jobs.
My coauthors and I examined whether coworkers’ withdrawal attitudes (job
embeddedness) and behavior (job search behavior) could be socially contagious
within organizations (Felps, Mitchell, Hekman, Lee, Holtom & Harman, 2009).
Our article developed and tested a model of turnover contagion in which coworkers’
perceived job embeddedness (or lack thereof) and job search behaviors
influenced employees’ decisions to quit. In a sample of 45 branches of a
regional bank and 1,038 departments of a national hospitality firm, multilevel
analysis revealed that coworkers’ job embeddedness and job search behaviors
explained variance in individual “voluntary turnover” over and above that
explained by other individual and group-level predictors. Broadly speaking, the
results suggest that coworkers’ job embeddedness and job search behaviors play
critical roles in explaining why people quit their jobs. Simply put, worker
turnover appears to be socially contagious and workers learn how to quit their
job by watching coworkers go through the job search and quitting process.
Improving Organizational Health by Increasing Professional Workers' Motivation
Improving Organizational Health through Virtuous Leadership
- My second stream of research examines work
motivation of members of my chosen field – professional workers (e.g.
professors, doctors). I was struck by the rampant distrust between
organizational administrators and my professional colleagues and wanted to
understand sources of that distrust. My coauthors and I argued that the
distrust arose from professional workers' identification with their employing
organization as well as their identification with their chosen profession
(Hekman, Bigley, Steensma & Hereford, 2009). Specifically, we believed that
the norm of reciprocity – repaying favorable treatment with favorable treatment
and retaliating against unfavorable treatment with unfavorable treatment – was
not so straightforward among professional workers. We found among a large
sample of physician employees, that when professionals felt supported by
administrators they tended to only reciprocate the favorable treatment with increased
productivity when they strongly identified with their employing organization
and weakly identified with their profession. Likewise, we found that when
professionals felt betrayed by administrators, they avoided retaliating with
reduced productivity when they strongly identified with their employing
organization and weakly identified with their profession. In fact, it
seemed that in the short run at least, such professionals tended to actually
repay the unfavorable administrator treatment with increased productivity – a
stronger result than we anticipated. However, for professionals whose
identities were strongly tied to their profession and weakly tied to their
employing organization, we found that these workers tended to reduce
productivity in response to administrators' favorable treatment and also in
response to administrators' unfavorable treatment. The results suggest that
highly organizationally identified and weakly professionally identified workers
tend to trust administrators regardless of how they are treated at work,
whereas weakly organizationally identified and strongly professionally
identified workers tend to distrust administrators regardless of how they are
- Building on this intriguing finding, my article
on professionals' resistance to organizational change examined why professional
employees resist administrative social influence, which is a principal tool for
motivating employee behavior (Hekman, Steensma, Bigley & Hereford, 2009).
We argued that the compliance of professional employees (e.g., doctors) with
administrative social influence also depends on the degree to which these
employees identify with their profession and organization. We found that
professional employees were most receptive to administrator social influence to
adopt new work behavior (i.e. they sent more emails to their patients) when
they strongly identified with the organization and weakly identified with the
profession. In contrast, administrator social influence was counterproductive
when professional employees strongly identified with the profession and weakly
identified with the organization. In short, the results highlight the
importance of professionals' self-concepts in determining their workplace motivation
and behavior, and also highlight how administrators might benefit by
customizing their social influence efforts to individual professionals.
- In conducting these studies, I couldn’t help
noticing that on average female and nonwhite physicians earn 40% less than
their male and white counterparts. My
coauthors and I examined whether the market might be partially motivating this
wage gap – particularly if patients/customers were more satisfied with white
male than female or nonwhite physicians. We began work testing this idea and
conducted three studies (including one field study in a hospital context) that
showed that patients/customers tended to be significantly more satisfied with
employee performance when they were served by white men, rather than nonwhite
men, white women, or nonwhite women (Hekman,
Aquino, Owens, Mitchell, Schilpzand, & Leavitt, 2010). In the experiment, we were actually able to measure customer
racial and gender biases (using the Implicit Association Test) and show that
these non-conscious biases were driving the superior customer satisfaction
ratings awarded to white men. Because customer satisfaction greatly impacts
organizational profits and employee pay, perhaps the main contribution of this
article was that it helps
solve the puzzle of why white men continue to earn 25% more than women and
ethnic minorities. This article caught
the attention of my peers as it was chosen as the best article published in our
flagship management journal in 2010 (AMJ)
and was also highlighted in some of the world's leading news outlets.
- While I was working on the race and gender
project, I was also busy trying to improve the organizational identification
construct, which my coauthors and I viewed to be lacking because it ignored the
emotional component of identification. In our paper, we argued that
individuals often identify with groups in order to either reduce perceived
uncertainty or to feel better about who they are as individuals (Johnson,
Morgeson & Hekman, 2012). This suggests that organizational identification
is not only cognitive, but also has an affective dimension. We argued
that cognitive and affective identification are two distinctive forms of social
identification in organizational settings. We further argued that because
neurotic individuals are highly motivated to reduce perceived uncertainty, they
will tend to identify cognitively with groups. Extraverted individuals, on the
other hand, are highly motivated to enhance how they feel about themselves and
thus we argued that they would tend to identify affectively with groups. Across
three studies, we developed measures of cognitive and affective identification
and then showed that neuroticism was positively related to cognitive
identification, whereas extraversion was positively related to affective
identification. We also found that affective identification provided
incremental predictive validity over and above cognitive identification in the
prediction of organizational commitment, organizational involvement, and
organizational citizenship behaviors.
Improving Organizational Health by Removing Racial and Gender Biases
- My third research
stream examines sources and outcomes of virtuous leadership. The unfortunate
reality of leadership is that people who feel superior to others tend to seek
out leadership roles (Kernberg, 1979; Emmons, 1987), leading Narcissists and
Machiavellians to tend to emerge as group leaders (Van Vugt, 2006). One study
even found that CEOs are more egocentric, grandiose, and narcissistic than
patients suffering from psychopathic personality disorder (Board & Fritzon,
2005). And these egocentric personality traits can harm organizations as CEO
overconfidence leads companies to make the same mistakes over and over (Chen,
Crossland, Luo, 2014), and increases corporate social irresponsibility (Tang,
Qian, Chen & Shen, 2014).
In response to this
widespread leadership problem, I wanted to study how the small minority of
humble leaders behaved, and how those humble leaders affected their followers
and organizations. My paper with Brad Owens on leader humility used qualitative
data to understand whether and how leader humility influenced followers (Owens
& Hekman, 2012). Although a growing number of leadership writers argue
leader humility is important to organizational effectiveness, little is known
about the construct, why some leaders behave more humbly than others, what
these behaviors lead to, or what factors moderate the effectiveness of these
behaviors. Drawing from 55 in-depth interviews with leaders from a wide variety
of contexts, we developed a model of the behaviors, outcomes, and contingencies
of humble leadership. We uncovered that leader humility involves leaders
modeling to followers how to grow and produces positive organizational outcomes
by leading followers to believe that their own developmental journeys and
feelings of uncertainty are legitimate in the workplace. We discussed how the
emergent humility in leadership model informed a broad range of leadership
issues, including organizational development and change, the evolution of
leader-follower relationships, new pathways for engaging followers, and
integrating top-down and ground-up organizing. A key insight from this paper
was identifying the specific behaviors leaders could perform if they desired to
behave more humbly in the workplace.
I also published a
paper regarding courageous leadership. The recent string of high-profile and
highly-preventable corporate failures (e.g., Enron, Worldcom, Lehman Brothers,
Fannie Mae), inspired my co-authors and me to try to understand what might
motivate leaders to courageously detect and deflect organizational problems
before they harm the entire organization (Schilpzand, Hekman & Mitchell,
2014). Using a biological metaphor of “organization as organism,” we viewed leader
courageous actions as a type of organizational immune response that promotes
organizational health and protects organizations from harm. Based on 94
interviews we conducted with a wide variety of business executives and military
officers who witnessed or undertook courageous actions, we inductively
developed a model using leaders’ accounts of the unfolding sequence of events.
We learned that leaders report engaging in courageous workplace actions when
they feel responsible for dealing with a challenging situation such as a
workplace error, an abuse of power, an ambiguous situation, or someone in need.
We interpreted the courage stories as suggesting that workplace courage is a
two-stage process where actors first determine their level of personal
responsibility to respond to the challenging situation, and then determine the
potential social costs of acting. Our model of the courageous workplace action
process challenges the conventional wisdom of courage as being attributed to a
person’s disposition, enriches theories of intrinsic motivation, and helps
clarify the role of cognition in courageous action. Our findings also help to resolve some of the
contradictory evidence regarding the antecedents of the many organizational
constructs related to courage including whistleblowing, voice, speaking up,
taking charge, positive deviance, and organizational dissent.
most publicized stream of research examines workplace racial and gender
biases. My paper examining customer bias as a source of the wage gap
was selected as the best article published in the flagship management
journal (AMJ) in 2010.
Washington Post, June
Chicago Tribune, June 2, 2009
NY Times, June 23, 2009
Boston Globe, July 6, 2009
- Likewise, my paper identifying one source of the glass ceiling was reported widely in the media.
- business news daily http://www.businessnewsdaily.com/6788-fostering-workplace-diversity.html
financial times http://blogs.ft.com/businessblog/2014/07/women-promoting-women-damned-if-they-do-damned-if-they-dont/
Washington Post http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/on-leadership/wp/2014/07/23/for-women-and-minorities-advocating-for-diversity-has-a-downside/
Daily camera http://www.dailycamera.com/science_environment/ci_26203688/cu-boulder-study-women-minorities-penalized-and-white
Philadelphia Inquirer http://www.philly.com/philly/business/20140805_Why_women__minorities_have_trouble_advancing.html#disqus_thread
Huffington Post http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/07/25/diversity-study_n_5620839.html
On a personal note, I love
random facts/quotes. Here are a few that I find interesting:
no poet but if you think for yourselves as I proceed, the facts will
form a poem in your mind." -Michael Faraday (one of the greatest
scientists ever who kept a list of facts that he found
improves self-control by promoting higher levels (vs. lower levels) of
mental construal." To affirm yourself just write for a minute
about why your top value is so important to you. Then you can persist
longer on difficult tasks (like sticking your hand in freezing
"Women are not broken and men are not the problem." -NCWIT tagline, the problem is how we interact with each other
Need to teach people how to have critical conversations
Roundpeg is like eharmony for employer/employee
want to know where that idea came from because I like how that person
thinks and they might have other good ideas." -Julie Imig
"What would happen if we just added women, and didn't get rid of guys at the top?" -Julie Imig
"That forces otherness on people who are already feeling othered” – Jan Combopiano
Flip the script – words that hurt women:
“needs gravitas – means not me”
“helpful” is code for “not leader”
Women build support networks within a company and then lose it when they transfer to a new company
Catalyst has an online training about how to be an inclusive leader using the EACH model edx.org, catalystx.org.
Falk, CEO of Kimberly Clark made it his mission to make sure that women
have equal opportunity. He would tell people “We all needed help to get
here. You are going to help people and they won’t look like you. And
you say you want the best people but all your candidates are white men
– how can that be.”
not rest of the world, it most of the world…Don’t tell me the business
case for diversity. Diversity is about people.” –Lord John Brown gay,
Jewish former CEO of BP
GAP is the catalyst award winner last year and they are training 100,000 women in east asia on basic math skills.
bias can make minorities feel more marginalized and make majority
members feel hopeless. Need instead to focus on the positive –
BMO in Canada – every other board seat is filled by a woman.
“Corporate culture is built on a man having a wife at home” –Jan Combopiano from catalyst
Ethical leadership is inclusive leadership according to Thomas Mack
every David executive that gets replaced by a Susan executive, the
David’s double down and get super scared because of the corporate
culture of survivability” –Citi HR exec
we rewarded leadership teams instead of individual leaders, then we
could diversify the highest levels of corporate America because
executives would all want the best executives on their team (like
sports got diverse because of team culture with clear performance
How do you get diverse candidate slates if you don’t know the race and gender of the candidates?
Are people scared about the legal aspects of diversity? “We can’t talk about this (race/gender) or we will get sued”
How can we change what we can’t see?
How can we teach people how to have conversations about diversity?
How does “covering” and not being able to bring your authentic self to work affect productivity?
How does leader awareness of gender and race issues affect team performance and inclusion culture?
How would a blind career fair work? What would it do?
Does resume scraping and resume blinding increase nonwhite and female hires?
Do skip-level meetings with women and minority employees increase a culture of inclusion?
How are executive champions of women/minority ERGs viewed?
Where’s the manual for becoming more diverse and inclusive as an organization?
How do friendships at work affect the culture of inclusion?
What percent of employee time do people think about how their actions will be judged harshly by others (80% for women and POC)?
Whether and how gender balanced teams out perform their non-gender balanced counterpart teams
How would having team members taking turns leading a meeting affect the culture of inclusion?
if people handed out physical disks (or electronic points in an app) in
meetings to people who made a good point and then everyone counted up
their disks at the end of the meeting to keep score? Would that enable
women to get more credit for their ideas?
“Need to put the medicine in the applesauce when it comes to diversity training” –Citigroup HR executive
Bader Ginsberg said that Equality on the Supreme Court is when all nine
justices are women and no one cares, because for decades all justices
were men and no on cared.
What do parking lot lights mean for women and brown band aids mean for minorities?
Practical steps that P66 HR executives want to do to increase the “visible aspects of diversity”
-Have two women/POC on every slate of candidate finalists
-Blind resume reviews
-Diverse selection teams/committees
-Training/workshops for recruiting staff, functional recruiters, hiring managers
-Merit pay has to be attractive to different demographics
-Communicate “potential” status to high potential employees
-Targeted leadership programs for women and POC
-Increase workplace flexibility
significant problems we face cannot be solved at the same level of
consciousness we were at when we created them." -Albert Einstein
Talking about job candidates actually dampened diversity
addictive personality might have evolved for leadership. "So, when
searching for your organization’s next leader, look for someone with an
attenuated dopamine function: someone who is never satisfied with the
status quo, someone who wants the feeling of success more than others —
but likes it less."
self-monitors are sensitive to social situations and how other people
want them to act, and are more prone to developing an addiction. They
want to fit in so badly.
A psychiatrist who diagnoses mental illness, and sometimes demonic possession
20% of employers in the U.S. now offer empathy training for managers
Diverse countries are more expressive - they have a greater need for nonverbal cues to understand each other
My top five strengths: Humor, judgment, fairness, curiosity, creativity.
My bottom five strengths: spirituality, love, zest, humility, social intelligence
freedom is always coming in the hereafter but, you know what, though,
the hereafter is a hustle. We want it now. And let’s get a couple of
things straight here, just a little sidenote. The burden of the
brutalized is not to comfort the bystander. That’s not our job. All
right, stop with all that. If you have a critique for the resistance,
for our resistance, then you better have an established record of
critique of our oppression. If you have no interest in equal rights for
black people, then do not make suggestions to those who do. Sit down."
"I speak Spanish to God, Italian to women, French to men, and German to my horse." -Charles V
divorce is like a symphony with a screeching sound at the end - the
fact that it ended badly does not mean that it was all bad." -Daniel
Kahneman in Thinking Fast and Slow
neglect is the tendency to give good and bad aspects of experience
equal weight, even when the good part lasted 10 times longer than the
Duration of pleasure doesn't seem to matter. What matters is intensity.
-From Thinking Fast and Slow
women spend 19% of their time in an unpleasant state compared to 16% of
French women and 14% of Danish women. There is a striking inequality in
the distribution of emotional pain. About half of participants reported
going through an entire day without experiencing an unpleasant
episode...It appears a small fraction of the population does most of
the suffering." -Daniel Kahneman in Thinking Fast and Slow
In Colorado it's against the law to ride a horse under the influence
Americans now think it's ok to say what they really think about race
Teams fail because they are looking too much inward and not enough outward
number of gas stations fell by a third between 2004 and 2014 to just 39
in Manhattan. Nationwide gas stations dropped by 25%. 20% of new cars
sold in Norway are electric.
Predicting success at Google: Men who rate their competence 4/5 become stars, women who rate their competence 5/5 become stars
"Life is short. False. It's the longest thing you do." -Dwight Schrute from the office
I tried to warn people. But did they listen? No. They never listen.
Doubt is a good thing because it slows down decisions
Ruin your search history "am I lack toast and tolerant?"
Turnover hurts group performance initially and then performance recovers
Ancient Greeks actually built a computer??
English is the 33rd weirdest language out of 239
Platinum rule: treat others as they want to be treated
Trouble with navigation is the earliest sign of Alzheimers. Oh geez
System 1 is more influential, guiding and steering System 2 to a very large extent
Colorado has the same GDP as Eygpt, CA the same as France, NY the same as Canada
Period. Full Stop. Point. Whatever It’s Called, It’s Going Out of Style
"It's all 'What the shit the fuck you are!' and the boys are even worse"
Contrary to popular belief, Fortune 1000 board seats held by women not monopolized by an elite group of individuals
I sat next to this guy at Subway. I remember his game-winning catch that broke my heart as a kid.
search "Is my son gifted" twice as much as "Is my daughter gifted".
Fathers spend 40 more minutes per day with sons than daughters. Couples
are less likely to divorce if their firstborn is a boy rather than a
are 76-95% more likely to get divorced if one of them smokes, and the
amount increases if the wife is the one with the habit.
liter of alcohol consumed raises the chance of divorce by 20%. The
average American consumes 9.4 liters of alcohol per year, raising their
divorce likelihood 188%
An industry helps Chinese students cheat their way through U.S. colleges
CEO Paul Polman stopped reporting quarterly earnings to allow the
company and its investors to focus on long-term value
Last fall a park in Colorado closed because too many people were trying to take selfies with bears.
propose a negative, serially mediated association between higher
parental income and lower future leader effectiveness via high levels
of narcissism and, in turn, reduced engagement in behaviors that are
viewed as central to the leadership role. "
Sorry Rasheed, the ball does lie
More women on the board means fewer mergers and acquisitions
65% of men age 65+ say they are completely masculine, but only 30% of men aged 18-29 say they are completely masculine
Attractive people earn about 20 percent more than average attractiveness people
women, most of the attractiveness advantage comes from being well
groomed. For men, only about half of the effect of attractiveness is
due to grooming."
Chills man, chills
Want to be more inspirational? Get some sleep
"The Rooney rule has been criticized for not bringing lasting change"
Black NFL coaches earn $26.3 million in a 20-year career vs $49.7 million for white coaches
"We find no evidence that the Rooney rule reduced the racial disparity in assistant coach promotion rates"
Don't be color blind, be color brave
"You politically correct brah?"
Sweden has more Olympic medals than China
Blacks are 13% of the population and earn nearly 40% of our Olympic medals
adapting the on-site training program to suit disabled job-seekers and
by working closely with local agencies for people with disabilities,
Walgreens was able to hire beyond its 30 percent target. What’s more,
the company found that the center operated 20 percent more efficiently
compared to others in its fleet, citing increased productivity, lower
turnover and a highly motivated workforce."
ABC has the first black president to helm the entertainment division of a major network (Channing Dungey).
Budweiser changed the name of its beer to "America" for a few months (and Trump took credit for it) #peak trump
Want to score more goals in soccer? Make sure you have lots of different languages spoken on your team
"It's all any of us wants, to find a nice person to hang out with until we drop dead." -Lorelai Gilmore
adrians: I had three stitches in my ear today and now my ear is swollen like a balloon
I'm not being racist but if you didn't want your ear to swell up you
probably shouldn't have gotten stitches.
adrians: How is that racist
burritwo: They just said they weren't being racist do you even listen
the-lost-doctor: I'm not gay but I really think cats deserve a chance to be in the olympics
chandra75: this conversation is the exact reason I quit drugs
lurkerpl: please stop adding "there are two kinds of people" and "that escalated quickly" to text posts
mr-egbutt: there are two kinds of rapid escalation
horussebooks: well that peopled twicely
potential woman executives are getting paid more than high potential
male executives, especially in consumer goods and service industries
years of stock market data shows a link between employee satisfaction
and long-term value, even though stock prices drop when companies
announce pay raises for employees, but four years later the stock price
more than recovers because of increased employee satisfaction.
people feel threatened about their culture (i.e. I'm a Canadian and
feel like you're mocking Canadians) then they think about death. It
literally makes them feel like they are dying. So immigrants make
people afraid they are going to die.
people conceal their nature as animals from themselves with religion,
culture, clothes, and beer to avoid thinking about their mortality?
When people are thinking about death, they become more likely to vote for Trump.
China, debt has ballooned to 280 percent of GDP, from 135% in 2009. It
now takes 4 yuan of debt to generate 1 yuan of economic growth. Up from
1 to 1 in 2008.
sometimes think that the whole renminbi/yuan issue is a sinister plot
by the Chinese designed specifically to deter people from discussing
Chinese currency policy" -Paul Krugman, Nobel-winning economist
Women will compete if the goal is something they actually care about: the benefit of their children
an oblique rotation if the factors are correlated; use an orthogonal
rotation if the factors are independent" -Phoenix Van Wagoner
"Legendary fight with Shia Labeouf, Normal Tuesday night for Shia Labeouf."
"Children tend to live with more segregation than the population at large."
"The gender wage gap is smallest not in the least competitive jobs, but in the jobs with the most flexibility"
companies switch from paying cash to paying in vouchers that can only
be used to buy things for one's children, then women employees will
increase motivation to compete for high-paying jobs and men will
decrease motivation to compete for high-paying jobs (30% of both men
and women will choose to compete when rewards can only be spent on
children, whereas 35% of men and 25% of women will compete when the
reward is cash).
justly increases subordinate trust in white managers but DECREASES
subordinate trust in nonwhite managers (because justice is expected and
so it allows people to view minority leaders in abstract terms, which
then allows them to express the 'nonwhites are dishonest' stereotype).
with low self-control, and those who value a small prize today over a
larger prize later are much more likely to be convicted in court as
Every dollar spent on refugees increases economic income in the local area by two dollars.
most personality disorders, histrionic personality disorder typically
will decrease in intensity with age, with many people experiencing few
of the most extreme symptoms by the time they are in their 40s or 50s.
Another good one
on boards is a good thing, "companies with the most women on
their boards of directors significantly and consistently outperform
those with no female representation: by 41 percent in terms of return
on equity and by 56 percent in terms of operating results. "
leadership works for the Golden State Warriors, "“I’m a professional
listener,” he told me. “There’s a lot of smart people in the world, you
know. I’m not the smartest. I’m just an integrator. The N.B.A. isn’t
like the outside world. I can do whatever I want. But you don’t treat
people that way.” -Joe Lacob, owner of GSW
Smoking is not allowed anywhere in Austin, TX
Why do we assume people in powerful positions are white men?
Time will not solve the gender and race leadership gap. Action will.
you want people to be generous you don't need to offer incentives. You
need to take away disincentives. That means no more forced grading
curves or forced rankings of employees. It means defining success in
terms of contributions to others, not only individual achievements."
Prof Adam Grant
Founder of Chinese online retail giant Alibaba banned his first employees from living more than 15 minutes from work.
65 million white men
55 million white women
43.7 nonwhite men and women
In 2014 29.9% of men and 30.2% of women had graduated college, according to the US census bureau.
"I was under medication when I made the decision to burn the tapes.'' —President Richard Nixon
"When the President does it, that means it's not illegal." —President Richard Nixon, in a 1977 interview with David Frost
don't know how to lie. If you can't lie, you'll never go anywhere."
—President Richard Nixon, giving advice to a political associate
was not lying. I said things that later on seemed to be untrue." —
President Richard Nixon, reflecting on the Watergate scandal in 1978
me make one thing perfectly clear. I wouldn't want to wake up next to a
lady pipefitter." –President Richard Nixon, quoted in Ms. Magazine in
write-up of my work ever. “Some might argue that adding a second
minority or woman candidate to the finalist pool is a type of
affirmative action or reverse discrimination against white men,”
Johnson, Hekman, and Chan write, somehow restraining themselves from
inserting the word “assholes” in between “some” and “might.”
The national mammal is the bison. SKO BUFFS
- "Empathy is an inherently generative space" - some consultants leading a design thinking workshop I attended
you wish yourself and others to be happy, content, and at ease (loving
kindness meditation) every day for 9 weeks, you will be happier and
"When people are under stress, they look to powerful leaders who feed their fears." -Russell Cropanzano
"We stand with Tonto" - some bumper sticker
"The great work of our time is saving the earth. Saving Creation." -Geologian Thomas Berry
"She has the same half smile and expression the whole day. I've never seen that before." -Josh Anderson
Leadership Forum students want more student interaction, presentation
not a paper, dinner earlier in the semester, take-away of the day, read
a book like the Aeneid, and have the upperclass leaders come in and
different professors declined to write a letter for a difficult tenure
case that was ultimately unsuccessful. Here are their excuses for not
writing "no time" "I have editorial duties" "no familiarity with the
candidate" "I'm swamped" "I have new responsibilities" "I have family
health issues" "I have a new job" "I'm not qualified"
"Affective Events Theory basically says that events lead to affect which leads to attitudes." - Russell Cropanzano
Radcliff has a book on life satisfaction and concludes that people
living in a welfare state are happiest, both the rich and poor people
are happiest in a welfare state.
doctrine of Hayek is that welfare state pushes us apart, but
Bismark gave everyone state pensions and it unified the country.
And the Reagan cutbacks led to more regionalism.
who complain about wanting to get an A instead of an A- are basically
saying that the teacher is a wonderful grader 90% of the time, and a
terrible grader 10% of the time. It's a tough case to argue.
CU has a female mascot. Ralphie the buffalo is female
casualness is why we refer to the University of Colorado as CU. The
same applies at Kansas-KU, Missouri-MU, Nebraska-NU and Oklahoma-OU.
Diversity when combined with shared leadership leads to information sharing and better team performance
Diversity without affect-based trust actually hurts team innovation
Addictive personality might be designed for leadership
grads leave college with about 30 percent less debt than Penn State
grads and earn about 30 percent more when they graduate, even though
they are both prestigious state schools.
Two-thirds of University of Phoenix students fail to pay any of their student loans back.
What do Auden, Sartre and Ayn Rand have in common? Adderall/Meth
who are union members have children who earn at least 15 percent more
than those who are not in union families...supporting unions not only
helps workers but also helps their children and communities as well."
college lectures unfair? "Students over all perform better in
active-learning courses than in traditional lecture courses. However,
women, minorities, and low-income and first-generation students benefit
more, on average, than white males from more affluent, educated
Ways to network at a party, WSJ
Ivy Leaguers in their 20s make even more money than you thought
Doctors finally know What Your Blood Pressure Should Be (systolic below 120)
million Americans are poor sleepers which puts them at risk for heart
disease, diabetes, high blood pressure and shorter life expectancy
Boulder now boasts the largest number of phds in the nation at 8.2 percent
Average family income:
then it dawned on me: For them the arena, and then the parking lot, had
become their own safe spaces, where these people, who had long been
reined in by changing societal expectations and especially the heavy
burden of political correctness, felt they were finally free of the
ridiculous expectations of overly sensitive liberals.”
Public Service Announcement: Tom Brady is a Trump supporter.
far the healthy eating movement has mostly changed the eating habits of
wealthier Americans" Because they are the only ones who can afford it.
what I have instead is the chance to make the choice to love someone,
and the hope that he will choose to love me back, and it is terrifying,
but that's the deal with love."
"It's a lot of seeing people you are supposed to remember." -Jill describing a social event
is the inclination of completing tasks quickly just for the sake of
getting things done sooner rather than later."
"The three most harmful addictions are heroin, carbohydrates, and a monthly salary." -Nassim Taleb
Pascal's triangle is amazing
For every incident of discrimination there is an equal incident of
privilege. As a white man I need to talk about privilege and as a
Latina Stefanie should talk about discrimination.
who wants to be a leader has to go for it. But do women have to go for
it more covertly?" - some wise person at the Wharton conference 2016
Idea from Nate Fast (USC) - Diversity conversation prototyping based on
the person who initiates the conversation (majority or minority) and
the tone and the content.
had a diversity problem (only 29% of MBAs were women) and they did a
bottom-up approach where students tried to solve it and increased the
numbers to 43%. Harvard did a top-down diversity approach. The
consensus is that people don't like to do diversity so it has to be
imposed upon them. Top down is best.
"Women tend to realize gender bias exists when they have kids" PSU Prof Aparna Joshi
don't do big things anymore. With exceptions of Elon Musk, Google and
Amazon. Leaders tend to foster divisiveness vs collective goals. In
leadership there are calls for, but lack of action to promote
individual initiative and responsibility. There is a record low trust
in leadership, even when people tend to trust the industry. There is
also low trust in institutions like science. Good leadership topics to
study are collective leadership and creative leadership. We need to
kill authentic leadership next. We also need to study the leader
as "sensemaker in chief" and we need to know what does and does not
work for leader development." -Duke Prof. Sim Sitkin
MIT, students hate the word leadership because they associate it with
people who are power hungry. We want to rename our leadership center
the anti-leadership leadership center." -MIT Prof Deborah Ancona who
should rename it the Humble leadership center maybe
"Let's get down to the physics of the thing" -Elon Musk
is an influence process to achieve a collective goal. So we need to
start with the goal and work backward to determine what type of
leadership we want." -Maryland Prof. Hui Liao
has more sensors on each truck than packages on each truck. Harris
Casino is using video surveillance to track worker smiles. These hourly
metrics might be able to replace performance reviews. 10% of Fortune
500 companies have gotten rid of performance reviews. Showing employees
the results of their hourly behaviors decreased non-productive time,
but didn’t increase productive time. People who are high on social
comparison already know how they compare to their coworkers. People who
are low on social comparison improved the most from seeing how they
spent their time. Also the people who had low support from their
supervisors improved the most from seeing their transparent
performance. Hourly metrics thus act as a substitute for leadership.” –
Prof Ethan Bernstein
“Transparent performance metrics could be a way to remove bias from performance ratings.” –Prof. Katherine Klein
is the nature of the super-ego monitoring you? If God is now Google and
not a religious God what is the nature of that God? Benevolent or not?
Are people more productive with a benevolent God or a mean God?” –Ethan
transparency in performance feedback demands MORE not less leadership
because leaders need to explain what the flood of data means and how to
improve in response to it.” – Ethan Bernstein
of the voice literature is all about frequency of voice. But what about
content of voice? We found that there are three types of voice content
– importance, resources, and interdependencies. Moreover, voice
motivated by organizational identification was more likely to be
listened to than voice motivated by professional identification.”
“There could be routinization of voice so managers get immune to it like ‘Oh here it comes again.’” – Michelle Duguid
goals transform negatives to non-negatives. Maximal goals transform
non-positives to positives. Goal-setting theory is focused on minimal
goals. But it seems the best for motivation is to have very difficult
minimal goals. Half of people have both maximal and minimal goals and
those people tend to be prevention focused. One-quarter of people tend
to have maximal goals only and those tend to be promotion focused.” –
Prof. Steffen Giessner
“Prospect theory has both dimension sensitivity and loss aversion dimensions.” –Drew Carton
“96% of leaders are burned out (Byrne et al., 2014; Gallup 2013)” Prof. Klodiana Lanaj
meta-analytic correlation between physical attractiveness and leader
emergence is .27. This effect is the same for men and women, even
though the effect is stronger when men are the raters (r = .43) versus
women (r = .15)” – Prof. Stephen Courtright
main occupations for abusive supervision are college athletic coach
(pay is not an option), haute cuisine (if junior chefs don’t work for a
full year they don't get a letter of rec, and junior chefs often get
fired after 364 days), surgery (no mistakes), law firms (partners abuse
associates), investment banking (outcome matters a lot). These contexts
are also our most popular TV shows. It’s like we enjoy watching the
negativity. We like the drama.” – New Directions in Leadership
“Since the Ohio State studies, leadership measures have conflated leader behaviors with leader outcomes.” –Ben Tepper
we teach leadership? Yes! If we simply disabuse our students of the
notion that hostility is a good way of getting things done. There may
be a positive and a negative pathway of leader hostility on
organizational outcomes, but the negative pathway swamps the positive
one.” –Ohio State Prof. Ben Tepper
should do a draw play when you talk about race and gender bias. Start
by asking people for evidence supporting the idea that white men are
discriminated against. Be on their side. Be their allies. Then turn the
tables and say it turns out the data doesn’t support this idea. That
way you are on the audience’s side. And then they can change once they
see the data.” –Duke Prof. Sim Sitkin
the jeopardy theme song is almost done in my head.” –Wharton Prof. Drew
Carton after waiting in silence for half a minute waiting for someone
“If you want a student to stop talking, walk toward them slowly.” –Wharton Prof. Katherine Klein
main thing I took away from your talk was that white men are the only
ones who can really gin up the conversation on race and gender bias.”
–Prof Andy Cohen
This is how you get people to see common ground. Talk about common experiences of being excluded.
Amazing video of the process in action here:
Autistic woman figures out how to help cattle get washed and killed efficiently
Male leadership "fits with" hierarchical networks, female leadership "fits with" cohesive networks.
plagued by infectious diseases tend to be more collectivistic and
xenophobic, whereas low rates of infection make people more open to
outsiders and extravert.
toxoplasmosis tends to increase guilt, vigilance and distrust, at least
among men (Flegr et al. 1996; Flegr 2007; Lindova et al. 2006).
toxoplasma seroprevalence is also associated with a strong focus on
competition and personal achievement, at the expense of concern for
others. Infection is linked to reduced conscientiousness, morality, and
rule-conscious behavior among males (which are in most societies
disproportionately active in public life and business) (Flegr and Hrdy
1994; Flegr et al. 1996; Webster 2001).
finding that some personality effects appear to be opposite for men and
women also suggests that infection drives behavior rather than vice
versa (Webster 2001). Finally, studies have shown that medication
suppressing toxoplasma infection reduces the behavioral effects as well
(Torrey and Yolken 2003; Webster et al. 2006).
kids are only happy to the extent they can shut out or control or
memorize how to respond to the imperfect external environment.
Otherwise the outside world causes them tremendous pain. Peer
relationships are toughest for autistic kids because peers are the
least predictable. Older and younger people are much more predictable
and therefore autistic kids prefer to interact with non-peers." -Some
behavioral therapist I sat next to on a plane
is the business case for homogeneity? Why don't people have to explain
why they want another white male leader?" - May Snowden
and Gamble and many major corporations rotate all rising star execs
through D&I for 18 months (they have to manage D&I). They are
just doing their time. Nothing changes. People are confused about what
the role of head of D&I should be. Are they supposed to increase
productivity? Diversity should always be linked to engagement and the
bottom line. Millenials are highly engaged at starbucks. White men are
more engaged at work on average. Diversity needs to be an
organizational goal. Sometimes its an HR goal. Sometimes. But HR
directors are often uncomfortable around diversity. People need to
understand their own consciousness around difference and unity. Need to
believe that the more people participate, the bigger the pie gets. CEOs
have their buddies. Diversity makes them nervous. They don't like to
get nervous. LGBTQ movement succeeded because they got companies to be
supportive. They used the power of the purse. Also adoption, daughters,
mixed marriage might encourage diversity." -May Snowden
"Greg Garland is P66 CEO and part of secret CEO group." -Trisha
"We all want 'equality' for only our own group." -Prof. Stefanie Johnson
"All groups are equal, but some are just more equal than others." -Prof. Russell Cropanzano
Cool meeting software
D&I practitioners are discouraged, some just want to keep their
jobs. Few are really focused on changing things." - May Snowden
black boys essentially drop out of school by third grade because they
have so much self-hate for being on the bottom of the social
hierarchy." -May Snowden
lots of diversity, homeowner vs renter, north vs south, white vs black,
staff vs line, faculty vs staff, revenue generator vs support, elite vs
non-elite, introvert vs extravert, etc. Religion has a lot to do
with these deep, deep beliefs about difference. Arguments for
race and gender diversity sound like arguments in favor of free trade
and NAFTA (pie gets bigger).
Way bigger percentages of people die from inter-tribal warfare than modern warfare
Labels are for cans, not for people. Cool Coke commercial
"I want to see everyone connected to everyone in the world." -May Snowden
Is Trump just Archie Bunker?
Feminine Leadership or Inclusive Leadership? Women are afraid to use their strengths.
"Affinity groups at P66 - make people feel more included. Sonja Reed is A-MA-ZING (head of HR at P66)" - Trisha.
an avocado is ugly, then I am suspicious of it and throw it out if it
tastes even a little bit weird. That is like diversity. If a person is
a woman or brown and does something a little weird, then we throw them
Paper ideas with Stefanie
-facial reactions to nonwhite/women mistakes
makes people feel energetic and empowered and risky so they nourish it.
Resentment is high activation, high negative. People pay more attention
to negative events and positive experiences. Sadness tends to persist.
Pleasure persists because people take steps to lengthen it. Anger burns
itself out quickly unless people artificially extend it because it
feels good. Resentment is usually reserved for moral events. Jealousy
results when someone takes something that is mine. Envy comes when
people have something I don't. " - Russell
"The management division has the most pay dispersion." -Russell
Diversity/immigration has visible losers/costs and invisible winners/gains.
"If you mix ignorance and optimism you are guaranteed to be a success." -Mark Twain
"Countries can have universalist values, open borders or a welfare state. Pick two of the three." -Russell
White women taught black children to read
(Chief Diversity Officers) are overwhelmed with putting out fires. Some
are marginalized. They come from HR and HR has never been focused on
profitability. If you are focused on profits, no one takes you
seriously. HR needs to be strategic. Black and white women can
bond because they are both women. Black and white men can bond over
sports. At Kodak, I reduced barriers by having bosses and workers eat
in the same room. This was a big change and broke down divisiveness.
significant cost driver for tuition increase is a shift in majors from
low-cost (generally liberal arts) to high-cost (STEM fields and
the role incongruity principle allows for prejudice against male
leaders, to the extent that there exist leader roles whose descriptive
and injunctive content is predominantly feminine. Because leadership is
generally masculine, such leader roles are rare...." (Eagly &
Karau, 2002; p. 576)
research has demonstrated that interaction effects such as the ones
central to our moderated mediation models are highly unlikely to result
from common method biases (Siemsen, Roth, & Oliveira, 2010). "
is born into every human being; it calls back the halves of our
original nature together; it tries to make one out of two and heal the
wound of human nature.”
― Plato, The Symposium
Preikschas, and Agthe (2007) who found that attractiveness impacted
ratings of men and women differently. Specifically, they found that
women evaluating an attractive woman used a derogatory attribution
(e.g., luck) but when they evaluated an unattractive woman they used a
flattering attribution (e.g., ability). They followed an opposite
pattern when evaluating men."
Israel actually means "God wrestler"
comes from social relationships, physical appearance, and work. The
problem with it is that it deserts you precisely at the moment you need
it (after failure).
"Talk like ted" speaking tips -
be personal - people care about the messenger more than the message
Make people want to root for you
definitions of wisdom describe it as openness, humor, comfort with
uncertainty, and emotional stability (Bangen, Meeks, & Jeste, 2013).
traditional forms of capital such as social or human capital focus on
who individuals know and what they have, psychological capital
represents what an individual feels he or she "can become" (Avolio
& Luthans, 2006).
who are focused on unmitigated communion have high motivation to serve
others but little drive to help oneself and may engage in unhealthy
behaviors (Helgeson, 1994), struggle with cooperation, and lack drive
for self-development and accomplishment (Abele & Wojciszke, 2007),
is curvilinearly related to economic development. "(i) increasing the
diversity of the most homogeneous country in the sample (Bolivia) by 1
percentage point would raise its income per capita in the year 2000 CE
by 39%, (ii) decreasing the diversity of the most diverse country in
the sample (Ethiopia) by 1 percentage point would raise its income per
capita by 21%…"
only two percent of women-owned firms generate more than one million dollars annually.
Diversity leads to more conflict and more innovation at the country level.
Theory/Data paper with Jeff/JJ
Diversity -> CO2 reduction
Positive mod by social welfare logics
Positive mod by family interdependence
Negative mod by Econ logic
Positive mod by entrepreneur entry
Need panel data and instruments
Next let's write a one pager. :)
is a parasite that hides in your head and makes you feel it's rational.
It blinds you to the fact that you are an angry person." -Russell
mediator for the status quo study is basically fear of hiring someone
just because they are black/female - Stefanie's idea 4-27-16
monks the way the universe and beyond is built is our values. That type
of commitment is very rare in the U.S. Values to most Americans are
simply preferences -- which are very superficial" -Russell Cropanzano
300 male benedictine monasteries (8000 monks) and 840 female
benedictine monasteries (16000 nuns). Their motto is work, pray, study.
Deductive category development (Mayring, 2000)." -
should lead to clearer promotion policies, more objective job
performance criteria (to be sure bias is eliminated), more
inclusiveness which should lead to more engagement, and more
flexibility (to accomodate diverse needs of workforce).
diverse, inclusive organizations is good for business, says Kropp,
citing CEB research from 2013 that found "working in a diverse team" is
among the top five most-important drivers of employee engagement and
discretionary effort in the workplace. It also found that companies
with diverse leaders generate twice the revenue and growth as those
without, and that employees in such organizations are 19 percent more
likely to stay longer and collaborate up to 57 percent more effectively
with peers. Diversity and inclusion is also a bigger priority for
executive boards these days: Nearly 60 percent of organizations share
D&I data with their boards, compared to 10 years before, when none
of them did, according to CEB's study, titled Creating Competitive
Advantage Through Workforce Diversity."
should lead to clearer promotion policies, more objective job
performance criteria (to be sure bias is eliminated), more
inclusiveness which should lead to more engagement, and more
flexibility (to accomodate diverse needs of workforce).
tennis professionals have greater name reconition and popularity going
for them -- especially in the United States - but they get fewer
Professional sports all diversified around 1946 (after WWII).
Controversy around Adam Grant
Hedi Slimane is the Steve Jobs of fashion - Sales revenues at YSL doubled in Slimane's first three years on the job.
You can either look like a woman or look like a scientist, not both. Feminine women deemed less likely to be scientists
Intelligent people are more attractive and taller than less intelligent people
"I love fat oppossums because it looks like someone literally just inflated them with a bike pump a lil bit"
"Shut up! So that you can hear my essential oil diffuser." white woman in Boulder
always drank coffee out of jars, but I just recently started drinking
water out of jars, and it’s like, the best thing ever." -white woman,
#what a time to be alive
#the best thing
#water out of jars is
you see an attractive homeless person, that really makes you think.
That means they were unable to get by on just their looks." -white
women, in Denver, at a concert
#what could possibly have led them to this
#if an attractive person can't make it in this world
#what hope is there for the rest of us
#i guess we'll just have to survive on our wits
#and our ninja skills
#that's all there is for us
#things that make you think
#think think think
#winnie the pooh
My sophomore spanish teacher loved this song
three things GAP employees care about -- pay, career mobility and job
flexiblity. Underpaying people is just borrowing problems from the
future. It will catch up with you eventually. The trick is getting
people out of the stores and into corporate. People in the stores are
closest to the customers and are the most innovative." - Chief HR
officer Dan Briskin at the White House briefing on Corporate Sector
did a big internal study and 42 percent of our teams are not gender
balanced (had less than 40% women) but the gender balanced teams had 4%
more engagement, 5% more brand recognition, and 23% higher profits." -
Dr. Rohini Anand, Sodexo Inc
Staples hires 45,000 people per year
Results Only Work Environment (ROWE) was designed for women to give them more flexibility at work, but everyone loves it.
"Go where the energy is"
a $430,000 pay gap for women over their careers, $900,000 pay gap for
African-American women, and $1,000,000 pay gap for Latinas. Pay
disparity is always the result of an ingrained practice within
organizations. Organizations value male experience more than female
experience. Military service means leadership experience, but being a
waiter at a restaurant doesn't count as customer service. Blind
auditions plus not being able to lobby for preferred candidates
increased female job hires in a large sector of the government by 93%"
-Jenny Yang, head of the EEOC
the private sector to talk to the private sector about the White House
diversity initiatives. Get Intel to talk to other businesses about why
they think diversity is important." -
wage gap has remained but the excuses have changed. It used to be that
women had less education than men, but now that women have exceeded men
in education, the excuse is that women are applying for female jobs
(i.e. "occupational segregation"). And the only reason the wage gap
narrowed recently isn't because women got paid more, it's because white
men got paid less as a result of the recession." -Some smart person at
the White House roundtable discussion on equal pay
The girl scouts offer a negotiation badge
Boston is training 85,000 women to negotiate
key to getting gender pay equality is to not allow employers to ask
about previous pay history." -Prof. Linda Babcock at the White House
who works with his hands is a laborer. He who works with his hands and
head is a craftsman. He who works with his hands and his head and his
heart is an artist." -St. Francis of Assisi
of the neurotypical partners say that when they were going through a
vulnerable time in their lives, the strong, quiet, gentle, highly
intelligent and loyal presence of the Autism Spectrum partner provided
a sense of emotional security."
the 2016 Financial Times MBA rankings, only two of the top 25 schools
have female deans. 36 percent of marketing and management faculty are
women, but just 22 percent of finance, operations and econ faculty are
The smarter you are, the less likely you are to lie
However, the more creative you are the more likely you are to lie
Weird ideas for managing creativity - basically creative places are really annoying and inefficient places to work.
In shocking move, club of wealthy, white Harvard men breaks decades of silence to come out in favor of the status quo
leaders clash with culture, companies perform better. The job of a
leader is to bring something new and needed to the table. If you have a
task focused culture, hire a relational leader to maximize performance.
If you have a relational culture, hire a task-focused leader.
got more women to take a coding class by changing the name from 'design
of coding' to 'beauty and design of coding'". - Some Haas Berkeley prof.
Google finds "shrinkers" - words that make you look bad - in your email.
fast food chain has super low turnover, is super fast and super
accurate. “People ask me, ‘What if you spend all this time and money on
training and someone leaves?’” Crosby says. “I ask them, ‘What if we
don’t spend the time and money, and they stay?’”
and Glass call this process the "savior effect" since, in the majority
of cases, companies replace women and minorities with white men. In
fact, women succeeded other women or minority CEOs in only four of the
608 transitions over a 15-year period, according to the researchers.
an optimal amount of team diversity. Diversity benefits decay because
people homogenize, and because diverse teams are fragile. These
problems are overcome if you have redundant homogenity (each diverse
person has a clone).
occurs in part as a function of etiquette biases and the “group
paradox,” i.e., the fact that people’s desires to connect with other
group members reduces the likelihood that they will share their real
opinions, especially when their opinions differ (Berg and Smith 1995,
Bourdieu 1984, Burt 2007)."
three main problems with group diversity are homogenization (i.e.
groupthink or people hiding differences), fragility (i.e. people
quitting), and fragmentation (i.e. subgroups and faultlines developing).
conflict has been a major focus of diversity research, we view it as an
important mechanism that both causes and results from the three basic
failures. For instance, interpersonal conflict often leads to
individual exit and turnover, and conflict is also a frequent
by-product and/or cause of fragmentation. In addition, a desire to
avoid conflict encourages homogenization; even when A and B disagree, A
may opt to remain silent or feign agreement"
left the woods for as good a reason as I went there. Perhaps it seemed
to me that I had several more lives to live, and could not spare any
more time for that one.” ― Henry David Thoreau
of the biggest questions remaining is what will happen when the Obama
administration’s new equal-pay rules go into effect in 2017?
These rules will require companies with more than 100 employees
to report their employees’ compensation, broken down by race,
ethnicity, and gender, to the federal government.
For companies that decide to make salaries public, internal efforts to close the gender gap aren’t far off.
study found that while men’s earnings increase by 6 percent when they
have children, women with children saw their earnings decrease by 4
percent for each child.
Women who never married earn 94 percent of their male counterparts, while married women earn only 78 percent.
beings are messy, multidimensional creatures, living in a messy
ever-changing world. There is nothing wrong with making a plan, but
there is something wrong with doing everything as a part of a plan that
fits in with a vision of who you already are and where you were going.
Making a point of breaking out of your limited perspective everyday,
with trained spontaneity, you are training yourself to see your life as
a constant flow of possibilities, more importantly, you remember what
you do with the possibilities. We should think of ourselves as a
project, through experiences, we can train ourselves to construct a
self better than the self we thought we were."
- "This conversation's already too long. Bye" - Kourtney Kardashian ending a phone call
"Style is knowing who you are, what you want to say and not giving a damn." -Gore Vidal
data suggest that online dating has almost as much a pattern of
same-race preference as offline dating, which is surprising because the
online world doesn't have the same racial segregation constraints of
the offline world."
Excruciate means "the pain of being crucified"
Adding the words "salary negotiable" to a job description helped significantly close the negotiation gap between men and women.
Blind job auditions lead to 58% women, 42% men candidates hired.
gender wage gap has only closed by 1.7 percentage points over the last
decade, compared to 3.1 points the decade before and 9.7 the decade
the Hawk-Dove prisoner's dillemma game, disadvantaged players tend to
cooperate with each other, but advantaged players tend to compete with
of the symptoms of an approaching nervous breakdown is the belief that
one's work is terribly important." - Bertrand Russell
Subordinate ratings might be most accurate ratings of leaders
13 Questions to Ask Before Getting Married
In the short term lazy ants are inefficient, but in the long term, they are not
"There's no I in denial" -redditor regretsZ
never forget my grandfather's last words before he kicked the bucket.
He said, 'Son how far do you think I can kick this bucket?'" - redditor
"You don't need a parachute to go skydiving. You need a parachute to go skydiving twice." -redditor HighQualityUsername
"Who is this Rorshach guy and why did he paint so many pictures of my parents fighting?" -redditor elfstone08
"Exaggerations went up by 1 million percent last year." -redditor C_puffin
league is a really fun game because you play soccer, but you are a car
kicking the ball instead of a human." - my programmer brother Nate
is the most common CEO name (5.3% of CEOs) followed by David (4.5% of
CEOs). All women are just 4.1% of CEOs. So there's more CEOs named
David than all women CEOs combined. I guess it's time to get outraged.
More hilarious British words that must be used at once
Bog - bathroom, as in I have to go to the bog, so funny
Minging - ugly, gross, as in what a minging filth bucket.
Gobshite - bigmouth
Pants - lame, as in that move was simply pants
Bobbins - an even more fun version of pants - that movie was just total bobbins
Plonker - a lovable moron, like uncle Rico in Napoleon Dynamite
Numpty - like a dingus, or someone who's adorably foolish, like your crazy Uncle Wally
The new server can be accessed via Windows Remote Desktop with the following credentials:
Computer Name: B6
User name: ad\yourusernamehere
Restorative Justice involves perspective taking, empathic concern, control ideology, personal distress, and self-efficacy.
Elitists think I'm a more credible researcher because I'm a white man; egalitarians not so much
Men are 83.4 percent of Fortune 500 board members.
Men are 85.8 percent of S &P 500 executives.
women of color, this gap is even wider. Fewer than 3% of board
directors at Fortune 500 companies are Asian, black, and Hispanic
women, according to the Catalyst report. These minority groups of women
make up 17% of workers in S&P 500 companies but fewer than 4% of
executive officials and managers."
C. T. & Metz, I. (2015). Women at the top: Will more women in
senior roles impact organizational outcomes? In S. Jackson & M.
Hitt (Eds.), Oxford Research Reviews. Oxford: Oxford University Press.
(available online at
) [included in the Women's Leadership Center at Kennesaw State
University’s “best of 2015” list, available at
Being treated consistently unfairly can be better for employees than being treated fairly sometimes and unfairly other times
Years of Stock Market Data Shows a Link Between Employee Satisfaction
and Long-Term Value. Companies listed in the “100 Best Companies to
Work For in America” generated 2.3% to 3.8% higher stock returns per
year than their peers from 1984 through 2011.
If you are a low-level female employee, you will tend to be paid more equally to your male coworkers if your boss is female.
who express positive affect tend to create psychologically safe
environments, which leads to more voice expressed by followers
Employees who do more helping also do more deviance
Culture of love seems to make firefighters safer
In cultures that believe diversity is beneficial, diversity tends to be beneficial
stories about low-level organizational characters engaging in
values-upholding behaviors are more positively associated with
self-transcendent, helping behaviors and negatively associated with
deviant behaviors, than are similar stories about high-level members of
Resesearchers are measuring leader charisma with behavior items
measured charismatic leadership with the combination of two subscales –
idealized influence and inspirational motivation – from the Multifactor
Leadership Questionnaire (MLQ Form 5X; Bass & Avolio, 1995).
Idealized influence was measured with four items that emphasized the
leader’s behavior (rather than followers’ attributions) such as
fostering collective identities or serving as role models (e.g.
“…emphasizes the importance of having a collective sense of mission”).
Inspirational motivation was measured with four items that described
leader’s behaviors such as challenging followers with high standards or
communicating optimism about future goal attainment (e.g. “…articulates
a compelling vision of the future”). Unit leaders’ charismatic leader
behaviors were rated by the superior to whom the unit leaders reported
using a five-point Likert scale ranging from 1 for “never” to 5 for
results suggest that work relationships play a key role in promoting
employee flourishing, and that examining the differential effects of a
taxonomy of relationship functions brings precision to our understand
of how relationships impact individual flourishing. Results revealed
unique associations between functions and outcomes, such that task
assistance was most strongly associated with job satisfaction, giving
to others was most strongly associated with meaningful work, friendship
was most strongly associated with positive emotions at work, and
personal growth was most strongly associated with life satisfaction.
This woman seems to poison most of her husbands (all but the first one), and she just got released from prison
Gender wage gap is lower in unionized companies
Countries that eat more chocolate produce more Nobel prize winners
R. L., Arvey, R. D., & Terpstra, D. E. (1977). Sex and physical
attractiveness of raters and applicants as determinants of resumé
evaluations. Journal of Applied Psychology, 62(3), 288.
job applicants who include experiences related to their ethnicity on
their resumes are more likely to be passed over for jobs.
85% of corporate executives and board members are white men. This
number hasn’t budged for decades, which suggests that white men are
continuing to select and promote other white men.
tend to forget about cost when it comes to buying things for love.
"people nearly always chose the more expensive ring when deciding
between a more expensive ring with a bigger carat and a less expensive
ring with a smaller carat"
Funny British/Kiwi sayings
Tiki tour - driving around with no destination
Couple hundge - shortened version of hundred
Telly - TV
Bap - hotdog buns
Have a tinny -can of beer
That is a result! - Good job
Super Cali are fantastic Celtic are atrocious - funny soccer headline
Clever clogs - smart aleck
The snow is steep and deep
Roger the dog
Son of a chimp
Stag do - bachelor party
POHM - prisoners of her majesty
Tall poppy syndrome -- the taller you are the more people want to destroy you
"He's going to have to fetch that"
"Kicked it right down his corridor"
"Haven't done that for donkeys years"
were drawn to jobs looking for candidates who were competitive,
assertive, individualistic and ambitious; women, to jobs seeking
applicants who were committed, supportive, compassionate and
Fanning Madden of the Wharton School discovered, in a study published
in Gender and Society (2012), that the female stockbrokers in two of
the largest U.S. brokerage firms made less money than their male
counterparts because they were given worse-performing accounts to start
such as EDGE—software for workforce analytics developed by a Swiss
foundation—allow companies to detect potential gender gaps in outcome
variables such as pay, recruitment and promotion and in input variables
such as training, mentoring and company policies and practices. (I
serve on the scientific advisory board of EDGE.) Tracking progress over
time, companies that have used EDGE, such as L’Oréal USA, Deloitte
Switzerland and Banco Compartamos Mexico, have been able to focus
resources on fixing what is broken rather than blindly throwing money
at the problem.
increased by 50% the likelihood that women advanced to future rounds of
tryouts. Today, almost 40% of musicians at major American orchestras
are female, a contrast to the 1970s, when curtains were seldom used and
women made up only about 5% to 10% of musicians.
prejudice were likened to a sickness, many laboratory interventions
would be walk-in clinics, built to handle low-grade prejudices. Many
studies get around the problem of college students' politically correct
response patterns by studying socially acceptable prejudices against
skinheads, political parties, or the elderly (e.g., Karpinski &
Hilton 2001). Moreover, prejudices created with the minimal group
paradigm for maximum experimental control lack the historical,
political, and economic forces that animate and sustain real-world
prejudice, and “…a fundamental challenge remains to discover ways of
changing ‘hard-core’ prejudiced beliefs”
http://www.annualreviews.org/doi/full/10.1146/annurev.psych.60.110707.163607(Monteith et al. 1994)."
- grading guidelines article CU Indepedent
new scientiﬁc truth does not triumph by convincing its opponents and
making them see the light, but rather because its opponents eventually
die, and a new generation grows up that is familiar with it.” Max Planck
can add that to your potpourri of sad facts." -Prof Stefanie Johnson to
me about the introduction to a race/gender paper, and it made me laugh
because potpourri is supposed to make people feel good just like
collections of sad facts make me kind of happy for some reason
the ethnic and racial hierarchies of American life, there are those who
dish it out and those who have to take it. Some get to dish it out
without ever having to take it, some take it from those above and dish
it out to those below, and some find themselves in the position of
always having to take it.”
-Elizabeth Stone in Black sheep and kissing cousins: How our family stories shape us.
example, a recent survey tells us that just 7% of the US population
believes that business should only make money for its shareholders
(Cone Communications, 2013).
resentment (Kinder and Sears, 1981 and Kinder and Sanders, 1996) like
modern or symbolic racism (McConahay, 1983, McConahay and Hough,
1976, Sears, 1988 and Sears and Henry, 2005), assumes a mix of negative
affect and adherence to traditional values like individualism or belief
in the value of hard work that contributes to opposition of many whites
to civil rights policies. Related conceptualizations of a new form of
racism include, among others: laissez-faire racism (Bobo et al., 1997),
everyday racism (Essed, 1991), and color-blind racism (Bonilla-Silva,
Editors' comments, what I know now that I wish I knew then teaching theory and theory building, AMJ
In class exercise - have students be kind for 48 hours and write about their emotions - a type of emotional labor.
Steve Blader says that if you have empathy for people you will treat them better than people you don't have empathy for.
“Law is to justice, as medicine is to health, as business is to _____.”
colleague in a recent Academy of Management symposium memorably said
“our fucked-up global economy.” This exercise points out three
challenges when we think about the nature of business. One is that we
grapple with its purpose. The second is that we have a hard time
disentangling our thinking about a single business enterprise from
business more broadly, an agglomeration of those enterprises in their
institutional and historical context. And finally, we know that
business may not be an unalloyed good. All of these tensions are on
display when we appraise our thinking about the place of business in
are poison to some men. Great men have become mediocre because of
inability to accept and abide by a defeat. Many men have become great
because they were able to rise above a defeat. If you should achieve
any kind of success and develop superior qualities as a man, chances
are it will be because of the manner in which you meet the defeats that
will come to you just as they come to all of men.” -Bob Reynolds
we're trying to influence others and we discover that they don't
respect us, it fuels a vicious cycle of resentment. In an effort to
assert our own authority, we respond by resorting to increasingly
disrespectful behaviors." -Adam Grant
we have power but no status, we may still exercise authority or control
over others. But when we have no power, it is status that helps us be
"To succeed in academia, you have to be like a cockroach - unkillable." - Prof. Nate Fast
Humble Leadership talk at Google "Personalization exposes the
relational processes that are going on between two people (i.e. I feel
like we are competing with each other)"
earn less than childless women. Fathers, on the other hand, are likely
to earn more than childless men, according to ILO – an influential 2010
report from the University of Massachusetts that it cites found fathers
in the US earn 11% more than non-fathers.
Gender pay gap will remain for 70 years
"life is too short to remove USB safely" -some tshirt
fundamental concept in social science is Power, in the same sense that
Energy is the fundamental concept in physics... The laws of social
dynamics are laws which can only be stated in terms of power" (Russell,
1938, p. 10)
have to measure impedience - a big gush of blood means the person is
feeling threatened; a little gush of blood means they are feeling
challenged." - Mindy Truong
"When a complex system re-organizes, that is when it is most likely to collapse." - Phoenix Van Wagoner
Whole foods and Google only hire humble people
with research on gender differences that have found that males in
general are more aggressive than females (Eagly, 1987; Eagly &
Steffen, 1986), male and female groups also respond differently to
anonymity and deindividuation, with only all-male groups engaging in
aggressive antisocial behaviors when deindividuated (Cannavale, Scarr,
& Pepitone, 1970). "
Heuvelman, and Verleur (2010) examined the incidence of hostile verbal
attacks, or “flaming,” on YouTube video comments and found that viewing
a greater number of offensive comments posted by others predicted a
greater likelihood of contributing similar comments oneself. Being
exposed to a greater number of hostile comments led people to perceive
a “flaming” norm, thus indicating that this form of expression was
Panthers' head coach Ron Rivera is the only Latino NFL coach and allows
his players to fully express themselves "Keep your personality" he has
told his team, which is in stark contrast to all the other coaches,
which is why it is often called the No Fun League.
have had to deal and struggle a lot with these issues about ambition
and humlity, about service and self-gratification. This is hard for
me." -Hillary Clinton
"I am the prodigal son, every time I search for unconditional love where it cannot be found." - Henri Nouwen
To overcome fear of failure, fear failing to try instead.
the long run, people of every age and in every walk of life seem to
regret NOT having done things much more than they regret things they
did,” psychologists Tom Gilovich and Vicky Medvec summarize, “which is
why the most popular regrets include not going to college, not grasping
profitable business opportunities, and not spending enough time with
family and friends.”
many people think of confusion as a negative thing, it's really an
emotional amplifier - it makes pleasant experiences better (uncertainty
about how many birthday presents you'll get makes the birthday better),
and unpleasant ones worse (uncertainty about how many punishments
you'll get makes the punishments hurt worse).
People with a low need for closure tend to get more creative when faced with ambiguity.
After earthquakes, marriage and divorce rates spike because after these crazy events, people have a high need for certainty
dad loves this one "Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great
an unsearchable things you do not know." Jeremiah 33:3
Shame on you Denmark. Denmark police now take the jewelry and cash away from refugees.
don't always know when my kids' projects are due, but when I do you can
bet your ass it's tomorrow." -most interesting man meme
of legends tilt means you play a game, do poorly, get angry, which
makes you play worse, which makes you more angry (gambling term for a
losing streak). But just a 30 minute break gets rid of the tilt.
"Once a cucumber becomes a pickle it stays a pickle." - my brother Dan
et al. (1983) proposed that social closeness depends critically on a
high degree of interdependence between two actors. That is, closeness
is achieved within the repeated interaction of two individuals who have
“mutual fate control” (Thibaut & Kelley, 1959) and are thus
symmetrically dependent on each other (Lawler & Yoon, 1996). This
process is set in motion and sustained by the interplay of two factors:
individuals’ motivation for affiliation with their partner and their
expectations of their partner’s behavior. Symmetrically dependent
individuals are motivated to minimize the distance between them (i.e.,
they need affiliation with the other), and they have expectations of
closeness in their interaction (i.e., they expect the other to
affiliate with them).
"Rock bottom became the solid foundation upon which I built my life." JK Rowling at Harvard Commencement
"Relax in to the failure. Try to feel the pain more deeply." -Chuck from Inform fitness
professors don't get tenure because they don't get credit for work done
with co-authors; unless ALL the co-authors are women.
Bradley Effect means that whites say they will vote for a black candidate when they actually won't
S. J., Zanna, M. P., & Fong, G. T. (2005). Establishing a causal
chain: Why experiments are often more effective than mediational
analyses in examining psychological processes. Journal of Personality
and Social Psychology, 89, 845–851. doi:10.1037/0022-35184.108.40.2065
If you are disagreeable, people will tend to listen to you more
PROPER and & and TRIM functions are useful excel functions
Jobs was commonly seen as having a high level of narcissism (Isaacson,
2011). However, Jobs’ second try as the head of Apple was marked with a
tempered management style (Surowiecki, 2011). For example, he was
described as more open to others’ ideas (Beetz, 2005) and more willing
to acknowledge past mistakes, even referring to his earlier firing from
Apple as “awful tasting medicine . . . [that] the patient needed”
(Jobs, 2005). He expressed appreciation for the talented executives
around him and was able to retain them (Isaacson, 2011). Although Jobs
was still seen as narcissistic, his narcissism appeared to be
counterbalanced or tempered with a measure of humility, and it was this
tempered narcissist who led Apple to be the most valuable company in
the world during his second attempt as company president"
“When your Daemon is in charge, do not try to think consciously. Drift, wait, and obey.” — Rudyard Kipling
heights of human motivation spring from the beauty and goodness that
precede us and awaken us to better possibilities.” -Thrash and Elliot
to the view of inspiration as purely mythical or divine, I think
inspiration is best thought of as a surprising interaction between your
current knowledge and the information you receive from the world."
Mergelane - Female founder Accelerator started by Sue Heilbronner and Elizabeth Kraus.
Sue's Jan 27th Conscious Leadership event: http://conscious.is/event/taste-of-conscious-leadership-boulder-denver
VC Diversity- A SF Valley Report from Social Capital:
First Round Capital 10 Year Report on Investment (and gender diversity insights)
Sams Club CEO is accused of being racist (against white men):
corporate America have an addiction to white men? The first step in
overcoming an addiction is admitting you have a problem, but nobody
wants to admit it.
A Leeds student took three leadership-centric classes in the same semester and describes the overlaps
(1990) highlights that firms are either "r" types or "k" types, where
"r" firms are skilled at adapting to new environments and "k" types are
focused on being efficient.
the 13 phd students in my UWashington cohort, only 4 of us are in
tenured research positions - xiaoxia lou, richard d mergenthaler,
param singh and myself
like slow and steady investments, they value craft, authenticity,
strong values. Ironically, they are far more prudent and sensible than
Jet's CEO says it will win because it it totally focused on employee happiness, unlike its competitors
Sex three or more times per week reduces the chances of men having a heart attack or stroke by half
is something profoundly wrong when just 20 Americans own as much wealth
as half of all Americans. And this is just the wealth we know
about. Most wealthy people hide their wealth in offshore accounts.
half the expected financial gain of attending college derived not from
better job prospects but from the chance to meet and marry a
Greek philosopher Parmenides proved that life is an illusion because if
something exists, it can't not exist at the same time, therefore
nonexistence is impossible. Because existence cannot come from nothing,
the material world has always existed, permanently. Logic dicates that
permanent things cannot change by definition, therefore change is
impossible and thus the ebb and flow of nature that we appear to
experience is just an illusion under which is hidden a constant
Teen pregnancy is down 40% in Colorado, and the reason is unbelievably simple: free birth control
Q. who is Darth Vader's wife? A. Ella. Ella Vader (Elevator)
help your child be happy in love do these five things: 1. Guide your
child early to groups of peers who are warm and supportive 2. Gradually
ease dating rules so your teen can make small mistakes and learn 3.
Offer realistic advice, rather than idealized views such as everyone
has a "one and only partner" 4. Don't tease your child about a first
crush or belittle it as puppy love 5. Don't instill prejudice with
blanket criticisms of the opposite sex 6. Don't withdraw emotionally if
your teen rebels
you have young children, before you fall off to sleep tonight, I want
you to hold your child. Touch your child's face. Smell your child's
hair. Count the fingers on your child's hand. See the miracle that is
your child. And then, with as much vision as you can muster, I want you
to imagine that your child is black. -George Yancy
am asking you to enter into battle with your white self. I'm asking
that you open yourself up; to speak to, to admit to, th racist poison
that is inside of you." -George Yancy
"Every day of my life I fight to see women as subjects, not objects." -George Yancy
don't mean the Hollywood type of love, but the scary kind, the kind
that risks not being reciprocated, the kind that refuses to flee in the
face of danger. True vulnerability, speaking the truth refusing to err
on the side of caution." -George Yancy
most organizations would say they want creativity and innovation, what
they often don't understand is that this typically involves
passionate conflict, edgy relationships (think Lennon and
McCartney), and indeed, regular failure.
brought themselves to their jobs and roles. And that is the kind of
behavior that comes naturally in authentic organizations."
cultures in the companies we followed were forged out of organic
solidarity - which Durkheim argued, rests on the productive
exploitation of differences."
Ralphie: I want an official Red Ryder, carbine action, two-hundred shot range model air rifle!
Mrs. Parker: No, you'll shoot your eye out.
One of the best predictors of college attendance is family income
If you lose your job, you are more likely to vote for a far right political candidate
Four tendencies with regards to inner and outer expecations: Upholder, obliger, questioner, rebel
isn't time, so brief is life, for bickerings, apologies, heartburnings,
callings to account. There is only time for loving, and but an instant,
so to speak, for that." -Mark Twain
adults believe that fame and wealth and high achievement were what they
needed to go after to have a good life. But over and over, over these
75 years, our study has shown that the people who fared the best were
the people who leaned in to relationships, with family, with friends,
relationships don't just protect our brains, it turns out that being in
a securely attached relationship to another person in your 80s is
protective to people's memories - they stay sharper longer
mind is best conveyed through your voice, not your writing: Evaluators
who heard MBA students' job pitches were more impressed than those who
merely read transcriptions of the same pitches
To stop bad behavior, display a virtuous quote specifically, "Success without honor is worse than fraud"
Americans are drinking themselves to death at record rates
Watch trailer park boys?
is a vehicle for expressing strong emotion - anger, frustration,
derogation, surprise, and elation - among people who care less about
who they might offend. Cursing is an intense, succinct and powerful way
of expressing yourself, even if some people find it unpleasant
People high in neuroticism and openness to experience curse a lot; religiosity doesn't matter
Turns out pople who swear a lot are actually smarter than people who don't
"'Engagement' is the new 'workaholism'" -MGMT Prof Keith Leavitt
Pattern matching is the new Jim Crow in Silicon Valley
premier league soccer the correlation between team average speed and
average shot distance was .35, but in the 2015 season this correlation
dropped to .06
wrote his first symphony at age 8. I'm 20 years of age and just
rehearsed 5 times what I'm going to say at the drive through."
would you spend your millions on if you won the lottery?' Oh you know
I'd probably pay off all my student loans and with the rest of my $10,
I don't know I'd probably get chipotle or something." -@jordan christine
is easy. It's like riding a bike. Except the bikes on fire. And the
ground's on fire. And everything's on fire. And your in hell."
Dean's Leadership Forum Students are the "Inspirational Pattern"
meaning they are high in dominance and influence and low in stability
and conscientiousness. They would benefit by genuine sensitivity, and a
willingness to help others succeed in their own personal
an "Objective Thinker" on my DISC profile (low in dominance, influence
and stability, and high in conscientiousness). That means I reject
interpersonal aggression, judge others by their ability to think
logically, fear irrational acts and ridicule, and would benefit by
increasing self-disclosure and publically discussing my insights and
Procrastinating is a vice for productivity and a virtue for creativity; and hanging out with your enemies is a really good idea
This book outlines the ways that organizations can overcome the barriers to gender inequality
This book argues that leaders should put customers second, close open offices, and ditch performance appraisals
an employee made a $10 million mistake at IBM in the 1960s, he walked
into Tom Watson, the CEOs office expecting to get fired. "Fire you?"
Mr. Watson asked. "I just spent $10 million educating you."
cultures are pretty much the same. The dimensions that matter are
justice (is this a fair place), security (is it safe to work here) and
control (can I shape my destiny and have influence in this
people don't know about the culture, ask them to tell you about what
meetings are like. When people find them productive and enjoyable,
that's a good sign.
"New Jersey is really beautiful though!" -white woman in New York at Empellon al Pastor
#I guess they call it the garden state
#there's gotta be a reason
#but that's not the first thing people think of
only had half my coffee and I'm already feeling a little bit methy."
-white woman in Boulder at the Trident, who never tried meth
#how much experience with meth do you have
#not a full blown meth situation
#just a wee bit
one thing about the apocalypse that's gonna be rough: hair cuts."
-white woman in Boulder at the Kitchen next door, and has never lived
through the apocalypse
#what makes you think the hairdressers won't be survivors
#they have a lot of important skills
#like scissor wielding
#and access to chemicals
#I think the post-apocalyptic world might be run by hair dressers
#and then you'll always be able to look awesome for a price
#but that's kind of how it is now
#except now the price is money
#and I'm talking like survivalist prices
#like info on other hair dresser hold outs
#and canned goods
#and walkie talkies
#what'll you have today?
#oh just a trim
#that'll be four walkie talkies
is there no taco emoji?" - white woman in Boulder on communication #we
just want to communicate in pictures like the ancient eygptians #whyyyyy
"The free child care is my main motivation for coming here." -white woman in Boulder at the Colorado Athletic Club locker room
"A lot of planets must be in retrograde right now." -white woman, in Boulder, at Alfalfa’s Market in the Wellness section
"Donald Trump's ugly son and Mitt Romney's ugly son should hang out. I'd love to see that Facebook album."
"When you talk you are only repeating what you already know. But if you listen, you may learn something new." -Dalai Lama
"I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little death that brings total obliteration." -frank herbert in Dune
"We make meaning for each other. We believe each other into being." -Jennifer Hecht
you know that baby rabbits are called kittens?!?!?! And baby owls
are called owlets which maybe is the cutest word of all time
Did you know a strawberry is not a berry but a banana is?
Also fire doesn't have a shadow
When you have conflict in a relationship, the key is not to agree but to feel understood.
53% of South Carolina Republicans think whites face just as much discrimination as blacks
senior citizen called her husband on his drive home "Herman I hear
there's a car going the wrong way on I-90. Please be careful!" Herman
said, "There's not just one car. There's hundreds of them!" #that joke
is older than Herman
difference good dads make. The contributions of fathers make to their
children's lives can be seen in three areas: lower teenage delinquency,
lower teenage pregnancy, and less depression.
"I have to ease off on making love when writing hard as the two things are run by the same motor." -Hemingway
women are heading to the altar because many of the marriages available
do not offer them a good deal. America's marriage market is like any
other: people buy if the price is right. The proportion of those
married before the age of 30 has fallen from 50% in 1960 to around 20%
plays a large role in determining which poor children achieve the
so-called American dream. Boulder County is pretty good for income
mobility for children in poor families. It is better than about 77
percent of counties.
hyperloop which is the fifth mode of transportation (like those bank
pneumatic tube thingys) is actually becoming a reality thanks to Elon
of workers now report for duty in open offices even though people find
them noisy and distracting and reduce morale. Facebook's new office has
lonely can warp your health, your genes and your immune system.
Lonliness is deep. It's encoded in our genetics, and it's not easy to
people are protected from wounds (inflamation response,because they are
lonely and will probably get attacked by hostile people or animals),
but non-lonely people are protected from viral diseases (interferons --
because they are around people who have viruses)
Lonely people have a lot more norepinephrine coursing through their blood.
person experienced such a bad traumatic experience, she made herself
actually go blind. The situation was so intense she wished to become
blind and thus not to need to see.
might result from extreme inequality in the Middle East because the top
10% has 60% of the wealth, and the top 1% share might have 25% (versus
20% in the U.S. 11% in Europe and 17% in South Africa).
there's anything I've learned from doing Humans of New York these past
five years, its that stories are always more interesting than
opinions." -Brandon Stanton
means acceptance, appreciation, closeness, community, consideration,
contribution to the enrichment of life, emotional safety, empathy,
honesty (the empowering honesty that allows us to learn from our
limitations), love, reassurance, respect, support, trust,
Take action out of the desire to contribute to life, rather than out of fear guilt shame or obligation
When we judge others, we contribute to violence
Empathy involves emptying the mind and listening with our whole being
"Observing without evaluating is the highest form of intelligence." -J Krishnamurti
occasion is piled high with difficulty. As our case is new, so we must
think anew and act anew. We must disenthrall ourselves and then we
shall save our country." A. Lincoln 1862
go home and wash the dishes. Washing dishes is the antidote to
confusion. I know that for a fact." -Maira Kalman in The Principles of
think of her bed construction that says 'art is the guarantee of
sanity'. I really hope that is true. I think nature is the guarantee of
sanity. Or maybe love. Or both. Or not. Anyways." -Maira Kalman in The
Principles of Uncertainty
the wall was a dress that I embroidered. It said "Ich Hage Genug" which
is a Bach Cantata which I once thought meant "I've had it, I can't take
anymore, give me a break." But I was wrong. It means "I have enough."
And that is utterly true. I happen to be alive. End of discussion. But
I will go out and buy a hat." -Maira Kalman in The Principles of
"Everyone is going forward and everyone is behind everyone." -Maira Kalman in The Principles of Uncertainty
real Einstein (Albert, who played the violin badly; but so what, there
is nothing greater than music NOTHING) loved Johannes Kepler. In 1605
the genius Kepler determined (without a telescope) the eliptical orbit
of Mars - while wearing a ruffled collar the size of a snow tire. He
also wrote about celestial harmony BUT domestic harmony eluded him. He
confided in his friend Robertus De Fluctious and wrote in his diary "My
wife is fat confused and simple-minded". It makes me sad that he
thought that. Afterall she had to wash and iron that crazy collar. But
then she died. Poor Kepler. Poor Kepler's wife. Poor everybody. I will
go for a walk and calm down." -Maira Kalman in The Principles of
Bad sleep leads to neurotoxin buildup in the brain
- Only 36% of full-time students graduate in 4 years
daughter's only 6 months old and already drawing. I'd hang it on the
fridge but honestly, it's absolute garbage." -@vancityreynolds
one mural of Zayn on the hood of your car using gold leaf and real hair
and suddenly you're "obsessed."" -@vancityreynolds
great thing about kite surfing is that depending on the wind you can
continue kite surfing up to an hour after dying." -@vancityreynolds
"Do NOT make me regret this one direction tattoo on my lower back fellas." -@vancityreynolds
conservatives want answers more than other people and tend to agree
with statements such as "It's annoying to listen to someone who can't
make up their mind" and "I dislike it when a person's statement could
mean many different things" and "In most social conflicts, I can easily
see which side is right and wrong."
"Just as owning a car doesn't make us experts on engines, having a brain doesn't make us experts on psychology" -Adam Grant
"Carpenters fashion wood; fletchers fashion arrows; the wise fashion themselves." -Buddha
is reason alone which makes life happy and pleasant, by expelling all
false conceptions or opinions, as may in any way occasion perturb the
mind." - Epicurus
Hindi term "Ahimsa" means "nonharm to sentient beings" which is the
core of most codes of ethics. If your actions cause harm to others they
a great state as you would cook a small fish." -Lao Tzu basically
saying to be gentle and stop with the tough and decisive false bravado
"The best employer of men keeps himself below them" -Lao Tzu
"Man is by nature a political animal." -Socrates
work, even cotton spinning is noble; work alone is noble... A life of
ease is not for any man nor for any god." -Thomas Carlyle
"The best cure for being sad is to learn something...Learn why the world wags and what wags it." -T.H. White
children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of
Life's longing for itself. They come through you but not from you, and
though they are with you yet they belong not to you. You may give them
your love but not your thoughts, for they have their own thoughts. You
may house their bodies but not their souls, for their souls dwell in
the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you." -
British bosses are the worst type of bosses in the developed world.
actually lived in a sect of math-minded people, and they worshipped
whole numbers. 1 symbolized reason, 2 was the undefined spirit; 3
represented males; 4 represented females; and 5 was the best because it
was 2+3 (spirit plus males, what could be better than that??).
94% of couples stuck to a fitness program when they did it together
is continuation of a policy by another means, just as divorce is
continuation of a marriage by another means." - paraphrase of Carl von
Clausewitz in some pop philosophy book I can't remember the title of
Fifth third bank to pay $18 million settlement for charging black customers more interest for auto loans
"Have you learned lessons only of
those who admired you, and were tender
with you, and stood aside for you?
Have you not learned great lessons
from those who braced themselves
against you, and disputed the passage
It's really pretty easy to get business students to unionize. All you have to do is mess with their grades a tiny bit.
are acts of psychological warfare against your friends...use them and
they think you are an insincere heartless liar...use exclamation marks
and they think you are awesome!
JK Rowling said Trump is worse than Voldemort. Seriously.
Leeds grading guidelines produce criticism - Above the fold in the front page of the Boulder paper
"First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win" -Gandhi
a high performer is an asshole, the costs outweigh the benefits.
Instead of hiring one toxic star, you're better off with two average
year not a single Boeing 747 or Airbus A380 was sold. Used
airliners are basically worthless and are getting dumped all over the
There's thousands of dead airliners in Victorville CA
the last decade we've gained 9 million new renter households in America
thanks to demographic shifts and a falling homeowner rate. That's the
largest increase of any 10 year stretch on record.
This moving company helps women leave abusive homes at no cost
2+2 = ?
7^2 X 5-8 = ?
(522(2x^2y^5))/(98^1/2 + 13)"
-Shane Rhodes CU Leeds BCOR student
women don't apply for jobs unless they're 100% qualified: it's less
about doubting themselves and more about doubting whether they'll get
serious consideration in the hiring process.
Dudes whose testosterone increases dramatically when watching smut tend to end up as deadbeat dads
There's a whistleblower office now and it gets about 4000 claims a year. It pays part of the settlements to the whistleblowers
The average award to whistelblowers is $2.5 million
Every minute you are having a stroke, you are losing tens of thousands of brain cells
Thank you for having faith in students. Thank you for taking the time
to raise us up and challenge us. Throughout this class I have learned
so much about myself. I know how to be a better person based on the
concepts and materials from the class. I am able to put my values and
motivations into actions. Thank you for putting in the time, effort and
heart into your work. It's important for us as individuals and
important for society that people like you exist. Keep being you and
happy holidays to your family." -Amberly Grant, in maybe the nicest
student note I've ever gotten, also came with a jar of pears which is
awesome and I'm pretty sure I want to save them forever
The reason introverts make better leaders -- they listen
The tiny changes that make a huge difference in employee engagement - psychological ownership
US income growth over the last 4 decades or so has sucked
did Canada surpass the US to have the world's richest middle class?
(Minimum wage is $3 higher, Unionization rate is 20% higher, strong
bank regulations, etc)
In 1900 only 3% of Americans practiced cognitively demanding professions. Now that figure is 35%
how different America would be if every American knew that this is the
fifth time Western armies have gone to Afghanistan to put its house in
order, and if they had some idea of exactly what had happened on those
four previous occasions. (Laughter) And that is, they had barely left,
and there wasn't a trace in the sand.Or imagine how different things
would be if most Americans knew that we had been lied into four of our
last six wars. You know, the Spanish didn't sink the battleship Maine,
the Lusitania was not an innocent vessel but was loaded with munitions,
the North Vietnamese did not attack the Seventh Fleet, and, of course,
Saddam Hussein hated al Qaeda and had nothing to do with it, and yet
the administration convinced 45 percent of the people that they were
brothers in arms, when he would hang one from the nearest lamppost."
"New test: replace the word "Muslims" with "Jews" and then ask yourself "Do I sound like a f**king Nazi"?" - @JesseLaGreca
"When we see ourselves in others, hate and violence no longer make sense. Understanding and love take over." -Doyin Richards
"You need power only when you want to do something harmful, otherwise love is enough to get everything done." -Charlie Chaplin
are tenured at lower rates than men, even controlling for family
commitments and productivity. The reason is that men get more credit
for multiple-authored papers than women.
What has 6 letters, starts with a "p" and ends a sentence? - parole of course
- Great management community service project videos
Boulder cleanup - gorgeous
These guys are true American heros (they fixed all the squeaky chairs on the third floor of KOBL)
Mariokart fundraiser - raised $600
Edgy motivational quotes
Hilarious stress reduction video
Buffs feed Colorado outside King Soopers
Safe Sex Awareness
African Wildlife Foundation
Basketball - leader emerged because he was tallest and whitest
Children's hospital - beautiful
Candy and a compliment
Pies in the face for peace - raised $6000
Stockings for homeless
Clothing for the homeless - funny one
Ronald McDonald House - great music
Humane society - really cute